It was Kevin Moran in 1985, Utd won thanks to Norman Whiteside curler, passed Big Nev Southall. The FA refused to give Moran his winners medal so Utd said they'd send all of their medals back, as he had played in every round before the final. The FA gave in, since then sent off players do get their medals.
Cheers Jan. Anyone know what the rules are for other competitions? Wasn't there also some furore over Zidane when he got sent off for butting that annoying git along similar lines