Good / Bad parenting.

[BANGKOK RED]

Good parenting may not be an exact science and there a doubtless countless differing opinions on the matter that are all correct but........

The other day the misses and I where in a shop with our daughter, she wanted some sweets and considering it was getting late we said no. Our girl had a bit of a whinge and that was that.

Now some other toddler comes along, asks for sweets, his mum says no and so the spoilt little cunt throws himself onto the floor kicking and screaming until mummy buys him the sweets.

The little cunt then proceeds to wave the said sweets in my daughters face as if to say "Look what I got", and seeing that the other kids tantrum was a success my daughter follows suit and attempts a tantrum herself.

Now my wifes response, which I completely agree with, was to both pick my daughter up off the floor, give her a firm whack on the arse and lead her out of the shop without the sweets.

Again that was that, until the mother of the spoilt wee cunt proceeded to tell my misses that she is a bad mother for slapping her kid and not buying her sweets. And even went onto say that my wife and I can't love our kid for doing so. Well yours truly was livid at that and there was nearly quite a bit of bovver about it all.

What I am getting it is that bearing in mind the misses and I are never heavy handed with our girl, SURELY we are in the right, and the other parents derserve a bit of a slap themselves because they will allow their kids to grow up into spoilt little cunts.

Is there ANY argument in favour of not discipling your kids?

Anyone?

[flammableBen]

You're a monster.

[BANGKOK RED]

You're a monster.

Growwwlll.

[Reg Smeeton]

You're a monster.

 What's that coming over the hill....Bangkok Red.  You'd have social services paying a visit if it'd been en Angleterre.

   Give in and get used to it....you'll be doing it for the next 20+ years.

[Fred Elliot]

I got slapped many a time and did me no harm.

Just the threat of giving Jen a slap has been enough of a deterrent so far

[axs]

I totally agree with what you BR, not spoiling kids is important and a slap on th eback of the legs teaches young kids very effectively. Certainly never did me any harm. There are very important boundaries to this though and something that 99% of parents have built in to them - unfortunately there are a few who have a lack of self control and just beat the shit out of kids. This is an entirely different issue.

[flammableBen]

I'm just winding you up because you're clearly just posting so people would say that you did the right thing. I didn't want to reward this sort of attention seeking behaviour

Definitely right not buying her sweets. Giving her a whack on the arse is up to you, not something that bothers me. I do worry when the hitting your kids debate comes up, that there seems to be a lot of people who don't know the difference between a smacked bum and beating the shit out of a kid.

[BANGKOK RED]

You're a monster.

 What's that coming over the hill....Bangkok Red.  

     

I guess I could have condensed my post into something like:

Don't you hate parents who spoil their kids.

[Batch]

Oh God, the Dail Mail readers will have a field day on that one! Smacking, why that's worse the serial killing.

You can't blame the "brat", clearly the upbringing was to blame.

Like you say, parenting is a personal thing. I can see the other argument of not smacking, but Personally, no I do not think smacking is bad as a last result, not OTT, etc, etc. And my little one certainly would not be getting sweets behaving like that. And yes the other parent was out of order sticking their nose in.

[Reg Smeeton]

In all seriousness the thought of slapping a little girl is just wrong....one should explain to her in concise and clear language the reason why you are not going to to accede to her wishes on this occasion.....

 I will concede there are occasions, when it is acceptable to smack a big girl...and tell her she's been a naughty girl  

[BANGKOK RED]

I'm just winding you up because you're clearly just posting so people would say that you did the right thing. I didn't want to reward this sort of attention seeking behaviour

Your'e a little wide of the mark Ben. Of course I want to hear that I am right, but I also want to be the best father that I can be and am therefore open to suggestions.

Not only that the incident in the shop wound me up somewhat and so I am perhaps venting some fustration here,.

[Don Rogers Shop]

Up to the individuals really what i see as being right maybe seen as wrong by others and vice versa.

I dont think there is a correct way, as long as your kids grow up being respectful and knowing the difference between right and wrong im sure that will be seen as doing a good job.

So on that basis my Parents were fucking terrible

[DV]

Think you did the right thing, kids need to learn that no means no.

Now im and only child and an only grandchild and my gramp, has certainly spoilt me in the past....and still bloody does!

On that note, the things he buys me (like cars!!) I dont ask for, he just buys.....sure I'm spoilt, but its case of I got gifts not things I asked for.....and if I did ask for something and was told 'no' that was the end of it.

As some who works with children, the way some of them behave leaves alot to be desired....

[leefer]

Sorry BANGKOK....i dont agree with smacking,ime not saying people shouldnt cos its there choice,but theres a fine line,kids copy their parents and while theres thousands of good parents like yourself theres thousands of bad ones who think its accepable to smack young kids all the time,maybe because i was braught up in care and saw lots of kids who suffered at the hands of there parents i think differently.....so as i say its only my opinion and know lots of people think that a smack never hurt them.....unfortunatly i saw lots of kids who got a smack ware it did hurt them.

[Reg Smeeton]

If you use corporal punishment as a last resort....what do you use when it fails?

 Reminds me of when my oldest was little.....he had a paddy in the street refused to do something or other and sat down in the road.  Worrying about cars, his mother yanked him up, and promptly dislocated his arm....was great going to the hospital,  explaining that she'd pulled his arm out of his shoulder.