anyone been a best man before

[Mexicano Rojo]

i have waited 34 years and now am doing twice in the space of 4 weeks! anyone got any tips and can i really fuck up the whole day :twisted:

[janaage]

Fuck me, I'm a best man in August, how long does it usually take to write a speech.  Not looking forward to that really but a couple of pre speech whiskeys should see me through.

[Bedford Red]

Did it once ten years ago, bit of a waste of time as it was all over in 18 months but there you go!

All I remember was I was really nervous, but once things got going, and I gave the right rings out in the chuch then i was ok after that. It went really quickly though.

[Dazzza]

What you got planned for stag do's?

[Barnard]

I was best man last summer. Top tips.

1 - don't get pissed the night before. The last thing you need is a hangover.

2 - Work out with the ushers who's responsible for what, if the ushers are organised it makes life one hell of a lot easier for you.

3 - Don't worry too much about the speech, theres loads of sites on the net with examples of speeches on, and you can plunder them for ideas and then adapt them.

4 - Everyone watching the speech wants you to do well, use cue cards and enjoy it, you won't ever get such a good reception for public speaking again.

5 - Take the rings out of their bags before you get into the church, it saves you making a cunt of yourself trying to undo knots whilst everyone's waiting for them to appear.

I failed dismally with number one, but managed to take down two ushers and the brides father with me. The groom managed to retreat to bed early and soberish, he did say that two fat men in boxer shorts (me and no 1 usher) waking him up at half 2 in the morning to tell him 'fuckin luv u mate' was somthing he hadn't expected.

[reeves4england]

Sounds like you did a proper job!!!

[BrightonRed]

Fuck me.. I consider myself to be a pretty laid-back person but this scared the shit out of me!
It wasn't helped by the fact that I hadn't known the Groom for over 5 years and he wasn't the kinda guy who had provided me with endless anecdotal memories over the years.

The church bollocks was a piece of piss.. assuming it's a church wedding the vicar will tell you exactly what to do and when.. then it's just a case of smiling for the photos and heading off to the reception..

I plundered quite a lot of stuff from the internet for the speech but it went down well with the kind of crowd that was there (i.e. traditional corny shit). I think it's expected that the best man thanks the bridesmaids and proposes a toast but apart from that it's pretty much up to you..
I couldn't believe how well received the speech was.

Then it's a case of plying the bridesmaids with booze and hitting the dancefloor..

As for the stag night, I reckon you've got that covered Mex.

Overall.. Pleased I did it... would think twice before doing it again!

[Spud]

Ive got a wedding to go to in July, i just want a slice of the Stag night tbh.  

[Batch]

Fuck the bridesmaids. It's your duty as best man.

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