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should i take a decent job in london or take a year off so i can stay with the bird in norwich? i wouldn't be able to get as good a job there, but could do more reffing and some voluntary work and work experience to boost the cv a bit and in the meantime hopefully figure out what i want to do long term.

i'm a little bit tetchy about the london job as its for a big estate agents who have a high staff turnover with many dropping out after only four months, dont want to sacrifice my relationship and for it to turn out to be a shit job which i quit after a quarter of a year. the hours are insane too, its 6 days a week as you have to do sundays for a bit.

go to norwich, its further from swindon :)

Stay in Norwich. Don't bother with the London job. Sounds like hardwork.

Go for the job.....if you stay for the bird she'll get the wrong idea.

i like the sound of that.how so, reg?

  Well lets put it like this.....if you love the lady in question you'll do anything for her....same scenario happened to me many years ago....total no brainer, I hung about until she'd finished her course and we both moved to London, what's a year or so?

  If you don't love her but hang about she may think you do, therefore getting the wrong idea....

think reg is saying she's think you want to marry her or something...
i'd go to norwich though, that job sounds like too much hassle............. remember to work to live and not live to work!

for gods sake don't move in with a woman, go for the job

nah i dont think she'll get that idea, we're only 20 and 22 and neither of us would consider marriage til 30's i'd say. i think we like each other an equal amount.

i wouldnt be moving in, but living in the same city. she has another year left at uni.

Don't know why you're asking.

It's clear from the way you phrased the question that you'd rather stay in Norwich.

Flip a coin. I bet if you say heads for London, tails for Norwich and it comes up heads, you'll decide to do best out of three..........

Then five, then seven, until you get the result you want.

 Well if you just like each other, then move to London and meet up from time to time.....its quite possible to like loads of women....what happens when she finishes?

Get the girfriend to get a job so she can fund your drinking/drug taking

they're all cocks anyway, just move to london and visit soho

Yeah, but you have to pay more for that..................

Debatable, Hertha

 like the Murphy's I'm not bitter.

Surely you'd pay more?

You get an extra bit.............................

if i move to london i'll be working such long hours that we'll have to end it.

haven't thought about when she finishes, should probably ask. its a bit of a long way away to plan for though.

 Given the exceedingly little amount of time that tax dodgers spend studying, she' ll be finsihed in maybe 9 months,  not that long really.

but you can smack about hookers and not get into the same amount of shit you would if it was your mrs....

I'd stay in Norwich - then again I live with my missus - have done for 2 years now. It's been a laugh. To me, it sounds like you'd rather stay in Norwich anyway - the rat race can wait.

To quote Norwich's greatest patron.

Tell your bird you're not sure what you want to do so you've asked a bunch of Swindon fans on an internet forum, and when the results are in you'll get back to her. I'm sure she'll be so delighted with this turn of events that she'll be like putty in your hands.

:Ride On Fatbury's Lovestick:

Go to London but get a less soul-destroying job - jr estate six days a week, FFS. Why don't you just go to the local Satanist temple and offer them your bottom as a goat-substitute instead?

I thought you were looking for a journo type job OF, or had been offered one?

Estate agents burn out so quick, I'd hang around in Naaaarwhich and wait for something better.

I was about to post that everyone had failed to comment on the key fucking element of this "dilemma", but the ever reliable Pauld has beat me to it.

A FUCKING ESTATE AGENT! For fucksake NO!

You're way better off staying with the webbed feet people and your bird. London is a shit hole to live in unless you're absolutely fucking loaded, and you won't be. Look for other work mate and stay where you are.

i'd say from experience that it aint going the distance with ya mrs anyway as you're both too young, so sack it off, get yaself to the big smoke and go n get conkers deep with some filfy milfy....then tap her back up when it goes tits up....

Woah woah woah for a minute here. You used the term decent job, so therefore I assume it's a good option for you personally? I gave up alot for a girl once, even moved to a different country. I had a good time, but it didn't make me any better off in the long run. It really depends on how good the oppourtunity is. Me personally I'd take that into consideration over anything.

there's a horrible smell of 3rd person deja vu about all of this.

   So you're saying we've all been in this situation?

i'm saying i have and now someone else is. very soon after.

  Ah right.....so how did you resolve the question?

it was a little more complicated than OFs situation, and didn't end happily on the relationship front.

and no, i'm not an estate agent.

 Maybe you should have asked for advice from the TEF....clearly the way forward.

   Back in the day....I advocated an Ask Yeovil agony forum.....sadly it never got up and running.

I cant think why :mrgreen:

i think the journo bloke is a bit disorganised, doesn't seem like a very good website.decent as in £22k starting salary and a free mini.

No, no, no...

A company car will cane your wages with tax, might as well earn 18k for what you'll take home, plus how often would you get to use the car in London? And when they say "free", if you get to use it for personal use and they pay the fuel then that's even more tax you pay.

Take it from personal experience, I left a 30K+ a year job with a car for a job with the same salary and no car and was £300 a month better off.

Working 6 days a week in London for 22k?! That is not decent by a long shot, especially as it's not the career path you seem to want to take.

Personally, I'd stay in Norwich and take the next year to take drugs, get pissed and figure out what you really want to do.

okay looks like i'm leaning towards norwich, have a room viewing on wednesday there. will take a load of cv's along to hand in to shops.you don't have to pay anything but parking and petrol for the car, insurance, tax, servicing, etc. are all covered by the firm. the car would be used all the time as part of the job. personal use is fine.

Your personal tax allowance is affected if you have a company car.

Even if it's fully expensed, you paye through the nose (See what I did there?)

Surely being happy is more important than your job poxford fan?

being in a shit job with no money to go out and not wanting to get up in the mornings isn't a great way to be happy either.

Sounds to me like its a toss up between free mini and girlfriend............

I've just acquired myself a new mini, and a girlfriend... do i win?

A difficult choice.............

Which has done the most miles?

Which has been most recently serviced?

As long as the girlfriend is older than the mini  :D

Uniform supplied is all well and good, but you have to ask yourself if you've got the legs to carry it off.

I'm not an expert on this, but the killer is free private fuel, which could be more than the assessed benefit of the car itself.

If you weren't given free private fuel (a fixed charge, no matter how much you use) I reckon the taxable benefit would be about £2800 (without knowing cost of car exactly). At that salary level 22% tax would give a charge of  £616 or about £52 per month out of your take home pay. - I'd say that's a good deal as maintenance and insurance would probably cost that much for you. The free fuel would more than double that liability and would only be worth it if you were going back to see you girlfriend very regularly !

Like I say, don't take this as gospel,do your own research on the HMRC website, but it's worth considering.

I think you should fuck both of them off.

The job sounds like hard work, and let's face it, the woman will be at some point as well.

thanks for everyones input, its been helpful. i'm going to norwich tomorrow to dish out cv's - not ready for london yet and i wasn't convinced by the job so will re-assess in 6 months or so.

I think that is a sensible shout OF

 Yeah, but did you see Logan's equaliser for the Grecians in the 93rd minute.....sweet as....he's a bit of an East Anglian boy.