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I suggest growing your hair. That way you've always got something to hide behind when things go wrong.

all the girls i know say they fancy you ralphy and i hear you're very intelligent and quick witted.

I think a visit from Trinny and Susannah may help. Perhaps you aren't matching your colours correctly when going out of an evening.

Learn to be at ease in the company of others. Perhaps a visit to a gentlemans finishing school could teach you the social etiquette required to succeed in Britain in the 21st century?

I find getting drunk or taking drugs puts a spring in my step so maybe he could try that.

Is it new situations, making new friends or women that you have the problem with Ralphy?

You could try hanging out with skinnier, uglier losers to make yourself look better.

Ben you're a fucker!

I have a general lack of self esteem and confidence.

Cocaine will sort that ...have a word with Asher

Will he help my troubles as well?

Don't do drugs Yeovil  :wink:

stop hijacking the thread - you're getting your attention on your own one!

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1202.html

Although it may not be easy, it's not impossible to feel better about yourself. Alice offers the following tips to help you boost your self-esteem:

    * Accept who you are -- your strengths and your weaknesses, your feelings and emotions. This doesn't mean we don't have to work on things.
    * Forgive yourself for mistakes, and, instead, see them as opportunities to learn and grow.
    * Take alone time, regularly, to read, play, garden, write... basically, to nurture yourself. Develop your talents and abilities.
    * Trust your thoughts and intuitions. Do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.
    * Take pride in your achievements, big and small.
    * Set realistic goals for yourself.
    * Replace negative self-talk with positive, kind, loving statements. When something goes wrong, instead of blaming yourself, that you must have done something wrong or that there's something wrong with you, learn to accept that it may not have anything to do with you.
    * Don't depend on others to make you feel good. Know and reflect on who you are in the event of a rejection.
    * Exercise, eat right, and get plenty of sleep. Being exhausted and out of shape can leave you feeling more vulnerable to insecurity, anxiety, and self-dissatisfaction.
    * Surround yourself with positive, healthy people.
    * Get involved in projects which help other people or the environment: Habitat for Humanity, Literacy programs, Big Brothers/Big Sisters.
    * Seek counseling or self-help/support groups. You may find these very helpful and/or comforting.
    * Most importantly, make conscious, healthy choices. The "choice to choose" is the most important choice you will ever make. Make choices that leave you better rather than worse off. Make choices that synchronize your beliefs, values, and actions. Be honest.

Also, if you can't control comparing yourself to others, why not try comparing yourself with yourself, instead? Or, how about focusing on only the similarities with others? This shift in focus can help you realize that they have imperfections, too, just like everyone else, and that their flaws do not reflect your own self-worth or value as an individual.

Overall, this self-realization process (getting to know yourself better) may help you figure out what the real problems are behind your low self-esteem. Alice also hopes you will take steps to find assistance through support groups or therapy. Take care, and be gentle with yourself.

But Ralphy has a new thread every day :D

Identify why you have a lack of self esteem. Find what it is and fix it, or admit to yourself that it's no longer important to you. I've found that confidence wise just has to be a general effort of throwing yourself in the deep-end of any situation. Difficult to do, especially after you drown, but if the worst happens pick yourself up and try again. If you continue to drown like a human brick then it's back to the self esteem thing. You need to loose some weight. Be it the people around you or your own issues.

I should right a self help book. This shit is writing it's self.

erm...

You saying i'm fat!

That will boost my self esteem  :soapy tit wank:

You used an apostrophe correctly there, well done  :D

Thank you.

I'm not a complete retard like everyone thinks.

Its what you think that matters Ralphy :D

Keep telling yourself that, this could be the road to higher self esteem!

Take time each day to look in the mirror and tell yourself "I am a winner, I am a go-getter, today I will do something positive and make my life better"

I know there's more to me than what people read on a forum. :)

Get plastic surgery

The first step isn't fighting the self help advice Mr. Ralphy.

Pure genius Ben.

I feel so much better already  :soapy tit wank:

is this where i'm going wrong?

i just cracked open the rioja and i feel better already.

Stop posting pictures on football forums would help your self esteem and ours  :D

yes.

Definitely.

Ralph I have something for you to take on a Saturday night which will make you able to talk to women.  £50 a pop tho.......

Ralph I have something for you to take out on a Saturday night which will make you able to talk to women.  £50 a pop tho.......

I don't have any problem talking to women Bushey.

:Ride On Fatbury's Lovestick:

Fuck off  :D

I don't.

I wasnt selling drugs, I was offering to charge you £50 I will then get drunk then I will chat to lots of people and be your entertainment.

You need to cheer up mate and be more confident